No path to success is linear; in fact, it’s an incredulous journey of peaks and valleys that is painful at times and downrightunbearable at others. That is what my mentors taught me, and I have never forgotten it!
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Many people who have met me in this past year or two have met me while I am on a big up-swing in my life, and yes it has been a great year so far; but all to many times I meet people who have some kind of self limiting belief about themselves as it relates to me and my life; and how they don’t believe that they themselves can achieve a level of success that I myself have achieved or any successful person for that matter.
I want you all to know, that the story you tell yourself is your reality. Change your story, and it will change your life.
Something happened to me this week that made me remember a painful time in my past that I haven’t shared with most people. In fact there are probably only a couple people in my life who know about it. I want to share it now with you because I think that it is a very valuable story that will hopefully help some people who may be struggling with similar things in their own life…
So here goes:
Back in the summer of 2008, I came back home from the trip of a lifetime. I had been vacationing with my girlfriend of 2 years in Western Europe. We were at the peak of the Real Estate boom; I owned a successful brokerage that was allowing me to pull down about 18k-25K of income per month. I had gone back to college for fun, bought my first house the year earlier for a half a million dollars and was at the top of my game. I WAS only 22 Years old!!!
In September of 2008, the Economy went to absolute shit, with the DOW dropping 477 points in a day and the housing market turning in to an absolute frenzy. It began a series of events that would change my life forever. Nothing could prepare me for what was about to happen in my life.
A week after the Crash, my brokerage was shut down because our parent company closed the doors over night. I paid out my sales team from my own pocket ($50,000) and told them good luck. I brought the 28 deals we had left in the pipeline to another broker house but watched 2 out of those 28 deals actually get closed as the economy melted down and multiple banks and business shut their doors. Needless to say, it was over, my dry cleaning bill that month cost more than I took in.
I was hemorrhaging money and very quickly going in to debt as my overhead and lifestyle cost me 15k-20k per month. My investments lost substantial value, and my income was cmpletley gone. I was starting to get desperate.
Meanwhile, My sponsor/Mentor in AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) was diagnosed for the 4th time with Esophageal cancer. For those of you who don’t know, I’ve been sober for since I was 16 years old (12 years now!!). (Check out my book The Rich Kid Syndrome if you are interested in hearing that whole story). A week after I got this news I found out my father was be federally indicted by the FBI for Medicaid fraud and was looking at some serious legal problems despite the fact he was innocent. To make matters even more bleak, my girlfriend who I was in love with decided to break her 3 years of sobriety and went from an incredibly beautiful and intelligent person who was Psych major attending Pepperdine University to a full blown alcoholic drug addict who would disappear for days at a time with no recollection what happened or what she did. The women that I knew and fell in love with had ceased to exist, and when I needed her the most, she checked out emotionally and I was forced to break it off.
I was 23 years old, and in my last year of College for my undergraduate degree in communications. I was scared, in over my head and every time I would try to cheer myself up and say something like, “it could be worse,”, it got even worse! My best friend at the time decided to move out with our mutual friend on very short notice skipping out on rent and leaving me in an even more desperate situation. Then my father on the advice of his attorney took a plea bargain with the federal government that was supposed to be a slap on the wrist type case, but resulted in him losing his medical license and being sent to federal prison for 5 months. Just when I thought this nightmare couldn’t get any worse, all my credit lines were frozen and I couldn’t find employment to generate some kind of income.
Within 6 moths, all of this happened and I was now $140,000 in debt. The house I bought 2 years before was worth $100,000 less than I bought it for. The two men who I looked up to in my life and went to for advice and guidance were hurting, one was terminally ill and dying and my father in Jail. The two closest people two me were gone, my best friend and the love of my life.
I was broke, lonely, depressed, and in the most pain I had ever been in my life.
The breaking point happened 1 month after all of this. I found a tenant to rent a room in my house to help cut my overhead cost down on the mortgage payment. He seemed to be a descent tenant, good credit and had good job. It turned out that he was actually a con artist. The job was fake. Social Security Number was someone else’s, and he had people posing as his former employer and landlord to get passed the rental application process.
I came home from job searching one day and checked my accounts and realized that all of my money was GONE! I immediately called the bank and they told me that I had cleared checks pulling the money from my accounts. This guy ended up taking the last $10,000 that I had set aside so I could survive over the next couple of months. My cards stopped working and I couldn’t even buy a $0.99 taco.
I went to the police frantically, but they sent me away saying that it was an identity theft case and because there was no immediate threat of danger they couldn’t assign me a detective right away. I’ve never felt more angry and helpless in my life. My Bank couldn’t help, the police couldn’t help and I was so desperate that I just snapped.
The con-artist roommate of mine did not know that I had found all of this out and was due to come home in a couple hours. So I went home, I loaded my gun, and shut the lights off in the house waiting for him to come home. I decided I was just going to shoot him, maybe not kill him, but I was so angry and desperate at the time, I may have done so. I just snapped, I lost it and I wasn’t thinking clear. All of the pain I had been feeling just got channeled and put on him, and I was determined to make him feel how I felt inside.
While I was waiting in the dark for him to come home, my mentor Mike Watson called me out of the blue and asked me “how I was doing.” I told him “horrible” and explained the story of what had just happened. Mike asked me what I was going to do about it, and I told mike “I’m going to shoot him.”
Mike realized that I was not thinking clear and told me to go put my gun away and call him back. He didn’t give me a choice. I hesitantly complied, and called him back. When we got back on the phone, Mike told me:
“Steve, I know you’re angry, and feel violated, but bad things happen to good people and the only thing that separates us is how we react back to the world when people do us wrong.”
Mike went on to tell me that unless I immediately forgave him, that I would carry this anger and obsess about it, that it would eat me alive unless I just dropped it and moved on. I couldn’t imagine forgiving this person given the drastic nature of the situation, I mean come on, what would you do if someone stole your last penny in my same situation. I’d been in full-blown fistfights over much less; I was planning on shooting the ass hole.
This was a dose of humility that I really didn’t want to swallow.
Mike made me promise him that I would call the scumbag and forgive him immediately before the guy had a chance to come home and meet my wrath face to face where in that moment, I probably would have done something incredibly stupid out of sheer anger.
So I called him, after he tried to make some bullshit excuse of what happened with the money, I stopped him and said this:
“I know what you did, and it’s ok. I forgive you.” He replied, “huh? What do you mean you forgive me, you don’t just forgive someone for something like this.” I then explained that…
“Yea, well I wasn’t going to, in fact when you came home today I was planning on shooting you, but then something happened, I spoke to someone who loves me and he told me to let it go, and to forgive you. I realized after talking to this person who loves me, that guy’s like you who operate like this and are sick, and that even though you took 10 grand from me, I wouldn’t trade 100 grand for the life and the people I have in my life. Guy’s like you live in a world where you look over your shoulder every day wondering if that will be the day you run in to me, or any of the people you have hurt before in the past. Guy’s like you end up getting shot in the back over 200 bucks. So yea, take the money, you will have to pay for it one way or another in the future, but don’t ever come back here, because if I ever see you again I am going to hurt you real bad!”
I hung up the phone and I never heard from him again, that is until about a month ago. I will finish that little story at the end of this blog.
I went to sleep that night and woke up the next morning and drove to the beach. The beach always made me happy. So I went there and sat on the rocks and watched the waves break on the shore. I was fed up, and sick of being depressed and in pain. In that moment right then and there, I promised myself that I was going to live through this, and not only live through it, but that I was going to fucking knock it out of the park. I reminded myself that I was a survivor, and that it was not in my nature to quit or give up. I remembered everything that my mentors taught me, and all of the people who made sacrifices for me to get me as far in life as I had come. I stood up; I looked at the sky, and I declared to God that I was going to fight through this and come out shining or DIE trying.
After this change of state and paradigm shifting moment of clarity, what I needed to do became clear. I went home, I organized my thoughts, set some crazy goals and got to work.
Over the next 3 years, I ate shit, trudged through very hard times and endured the storm. I kept reminding myself that what ever doesn’t kill me makes me stronger, and that everything that I was going through was preparing me for something.
My dad went to prison for 5 months but then got out, I buried my sponsor and Mentor Mike Watson and spoke at his funeral, I finished my last year college strong with a 3.8 GPA and got my bachelors degree. I helped build RevvNRG (The Multi-Level-Marketing company I work with) to 20,000 + Distributors in less than 3 years hitting the top rank in company, I Settled and paid down $120,000 worth of the debt I owed with out a collection or a bankruptcy and to top it off, I published my latest book “The Young Entrepreneurs Guide to Life.”
During this period in my life, I remained in a peak state. I found some of the best friends that I have in my life. I attribute that to the fact that the only energy I was putting out in the world was positive. I had no time for anyone’s bullshit. Not only that, any negative people in my life went away very shortly after I made that declaration to the world, they had to go, I had nothing to give them, and if they weren’t adding to my life I was in no position to waste any spiritual or motivational energy, I needed all the positivity I could get, and if they weren’t with me on that, they had to go. My dreams and family became to important for me to risk failing on the count of mediocre people around me, after all, the people around me is one thing I actually have a lot control over.
As things leveled out in my life I starting taking more time for myself. I wanted to keep the positivity going, so now that I had time and a little money, I took up skydiving, and fight training (Krav-Maga), got back in to my music, and started to travel again.
5 months ago, I took a trip to S.E. Asia. I started in Bali, and then went to Malaysia, Cambodia, Viet Nam and Thailand. I spent about 3 months on the trip booking a one-way ticket, selling all my stuff and left with a backpack and a surfboard. I spent my time surfing, trying new things and amercing myself in those cultures. I had plenty of time to reflect on the past years and I was in a constant state of gratitude. I had won; I defied all odds and handled my shit! I was so happy. I came home from that trip high on life with an even greater conviction to keep going.
I have come to some new realizations in my life lately. My time is my most valuable asset and I have reached a point in my life where I realize that I need to spend even more time then ever to give back!
I am sitting in Bali again presently as I write this blog. The week before I came here, I was invited to attend the Tony Robbins Seminar in Los Angeles with my Cousin Jordan Adler (A top producing MLMer in Send Out Cards and Author of the book Beach Money).
Remember that con artist roommate who stole the 10 grand from me. About a month ago, I received a call from the district attorney in San Diego telling me that they had caught him and he was trying to straiten his life out, this meant that he was willing to pay back the money he stole from me back in 2008.I honestly didn’t believe that the guy was going to give me 10 g’s but the day before I left to meet my cousin for Tony Robbins, the lawyer called me and told me that he had a
$10,000 check for me. Astonished, I flew down to his office, grabbed the check and cashed it immediately! I couldn’t believe it, the guy actually came through, and I just put 10,000 bucks in the bank that I never planned on ever seeing again 5 years earlier.
I got to the event up in L.A. and met up with my cousin who was with couple of his friends ranging from MLM industry leaders to formal American Idol finalists. Jordan has the coolest friends; they are always incredible people doing cool shit in their lives. Like-minds attract other like-minds.
I sat there listening to Tony do his thing and I was again overwhelmed with gratitude. Here I was sitting in the Diamond VIP section with Millionaires, great thinkers and successful people in all industries. I thought to myself wow, what a gift. I couldn’t have even imagined that I would have been this far along 4 years prior. Not to mention, I was $10,000 richer and was leaving to go to Bali for a month the Sunday that the event finished.
As I met my friends at the Airport yesterday and started writing this blog post I was in a surreal space saying to myself “yes! This is your life Steve! You are not dreaming, you did it and guess what… you’re just getting started, so live it up, you deserve it kid.”
I imaged Watson looking down from heaven smiling, and saying, “that-a-kid Stevie, I knew you could do it.” I imagined what all the other people in my life would have said who are no longer here. I thought of what might have happened to me if I ended up shooting that roommate of mine. I thought of the smiles that I bring to my parents faces when they think about how I came from almost dying on drugs when I was 16 years old to where I am at in my life now. The people I’ve helped, the places I have been and the things I have done are truly a testament to what happens to someone who never quits, and continues to do the right thing NO MATTER WHAT!
Life fills me up now. I am so rich, so blessed and so grateful to be alive. I wouldn’t trade the past for anything; I love every part of my life good and bad.
As I watch the sunset tonight over the beach in Bali while drinking a coconut next to a palm tree, I am going to think about the future, and all the people I am going to get to be of service too! I am going to thank my higher power for this life and soak it all in. My hope is that who ever reads this does the same…
Live your dreams, don’t just talk about them. Do what ever it takes to get what you want, then give back what was so freely given to you. Let go of your fears, they don’t serve you, helping others and remembering where you came from does. It does not matter what happened in your past because it doesn’t determine your future…
You are strong, capable, and worthy of all the great things in life as long as you are willing to work for them.
Today is my Late Sponsor Mentor Mike Watson’s Birthday; he would have been 60 years old today and almost 30 years sober.
Lots of Love from Bali Mike I love you and will never forget what you taught me, see you on the other side of the world.
So I’m at day 3 of the Anthony Robbins UPW event in LA. I am so excited and grateful to be here!!!
One thing that always remains true this path for me in Life is an insatiable desire to learn and grow in my personal and professional life.
I have gotten a chance to hang out with my cousin Jordan Adler and some of his top leaders in his MLM company. I always love meeting Jordan’s friends because they always have this common thread between them where they are not only incredibly successful in what they do but they are incredible human beings.
Yesterday at UPW they were talking about the idea of influence and who your friends are. Tony made a great point that really hit home for me:
PROXIMITY IS POWER!
Today I’m hanging out with millionaires, former American Idol contestants, friends of mine from the entertainment industry and just great like minded people in general.
By simply being able to hang out and network with these people allows me the opportunity to create and cultivate relationships that will lead my life in many different directions.
So the moral of the story is make sure your peer group is one of influence, and that they are a group that is willing to push you and can help get your foot in the door in to areas where you want to be successful, have a great day everyone!!!
I fell in Love with skydiving because its like you are actually flying. Have you ever wanted to fly before????
If this looks scary to you, imagine being 70 years old and realizing you didn’t do stuff like this because you we’re scared, didn’t have time, didn’t have money etc etc….
Don’t live in fear! Have fun and live life to the fullest!
There is your daily inspiration
Great Question. This is probably one of the most debated things that I talk about with everyday people when it comes to arguing over mind-numbing shit like politics and nationally publicized event’s like The Christopher Dorner fiasco. Also fun topics like whether or no 9/11 was an inside job ;), and people trying to tell me why fox news is better than liberal NBC. Well, over the years I have developed a very keen way to analyze media. In fact I was so interested about this, I did a report in college (back in 2009) that compared media outlets all over the world analyzing how each media outlet reported on a single event that was happening in the War in Iraq.
The criteria I used to measure was language and symbology; for example, how many times a group like “Al Qaeda” was used in a negative connotation or just used to report an event. I would also look for different things like “slants” or biases when the story was getting reported. When it was all said and done. The list gave some crazy insight to just how ass backwards the media is in the U.S. Just for the record, this was my report and my criteria, so In an attempt to be completely transparent, I will give you a run down on my affiliations (because most people who don’t like hearing what they believe to be true tend to categorize you anyway so they can continue believing what ever non-sense fabrication of a life they believe.
Here is my Profile:
Ok, so now that you have a little insight on what I believe, let’s get back to the task at hand about media outlets. Below are my findings from this report I did in college years ago.
Scale from Most Accurately (1) Reported to Complete Fabrication and Disinformation (10):
So, the moral of this story is that at least on this isolated news story about American Troops in Iraq, the Media outlet who you would think would be the most biased (Al jazeera) ended up giving the most fair and empirical reporting on the story while the communist Ukrainian news made the top 5. I think the question we should be asking ourselves is how in the fuck is this even possible?
These days, with so much bullshit out there to sift through, and having little time or desire to actually watch any kind of news, here is my quick list of how I get informed of whats going on in the world.
This should be a great list for anyone to start with.
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Hey friends, I’ve been working on My 2nd solo album due to release summer 2013, been in the studio for a couple days and though I would post some pictures and a sample of what I have been working on 🙂 Enjoy
Picture of my Custom Taylor, this guitar has been through hell and back with, I love here dearly
Matt Murphy Slaving away trying to make me sound good 😉
This dude is incredible at what he does!
And here is me singing my brains out, STEVE PERRY STEVE PERRY!!!!
One of the best lessons I learned in life as a young man growing up was that in order to be successful in life you are going to have to pay some dues. In fact I believed in it so much, that I got it Tattooed around my neck!
My mentors taught me that anything in life of any value would not be easy to get. The more I wanted, the harder I would have to work for it. Here are some lessons that they taught me about paying my dues!
Perry P Sayings to me.
“Never walk away from a situation feeling like you should have said or done something and didn’t act. The emotional pain will last much longer and be much worse than a black eye.”
“By just saying something, or trying you have a 50% chance of getting it, and 100% chance you wont if you don’t try or say anything at all”
“You can push yourself 100 times harder than you even believe you can.”
“Anything worth any value in life will have to be fought for. You will get tired, you will cry, you will bleed and you will want to give up at times. If you push through it, you are a warrior and champion, but if you quit, your a quitter, a person who doesn’t finish what they start, and no one will remember what you did, because you gave up on it.
….and there were so many more. Perry ended up dying after trying
to get a liver transplant in China. He had Hep C from a tattoo gun sincehe was 13 years old and was one of the toughest people I ever met. When he died, I was devastated, and I was only 20 years old. But I knew that Perry would never want me to spend much time grieving, he would have wanted to see me live to my potential and share all of the knowledge I had learned from him with the world.
Paying my dues in life means that I never forget where I come from and that if I really want something, I have to be ready to endure all that comes with it good or bad. Perry used to box, he would always say, “how many times should you get knocked out before you get good, further more, how many times will you get punched in the face before you start blocking,” and what he meant was that it was by doing that you learn.
Don’t be afraid to pay dues, volunteer and go first. Then don’t give up!!!
Have a great weekend and Rest in Peace big Perry, I love you man!!!
Have a great weekend!
So excited for the release of the 2nd Edition of the Young Entrepreneur’s Guide to life. Along with this new release, I am going to be working to bring new content weekly to my site. This content will be outlining my life, current goals, businesses etc. It will be my sounding board to the public to get feedback, and build synergy with new people. Have a great week!!!!!